So I decided to do a little write up on Katie Stam’s boyfriend, Brian Irk. According to the Lux Life Blog Exclusive interview with Katie:

“…Brian Irk, who was born in LaPorte and now lives in Indianapolis. He and Katie have been dating for three years. I asked him about the year ahead. “I will wait the year out patiently. It is only one year in a lifetime. I wanted her to win this. She has my full support. I know I’ll be doing a lot of flying so I can intercept her during her free moments in faraway places, so we will have plenty of reunions together over the year. I’m very close with her parents, so I’ll also be spending a lot of time with them.”

So why did I decide to do a write up on Katie Stam’s boyfriend, Brian Irk? Well, I have a soft spot for the boyfriends of pageant queens being the former boyfriend of Chasity Hardman, first runner up to Miss America. Chasity and I got to meet Brian when he came over to congratulate Chasity following the crowning of Katie Stam. He seemed like a real supportive guy and was really genuine.

If you are a state title holder or a local title holder and you have a Brian in your life you need to know a couple of things about your man in order to maintain a successful and healthy relationship throughout your reign:

1. Men are simple. I have told the 3 girls that I dated that I am really simple. I am like Jesus, if you feed my ego, I will never leave you or forsake you. Men desire honor like women desire love. That is why the Bible says, “Women honor your husband” and “Men love your wife like Christ loved the church.” Praise a man in public and feed his ego and he won’t go anywhere.
2. Men are jealous. If your man is not jealous then he is not completely in love with you. Not the psycho I am going to stalk you type of jealousy but the I want to know that I am the apple of your eye, God type of jealousy. If you compliment other men that is fine but do not compliment others more than you do your man. It causes trouble.
3. Men don’t mind your success. In fact your success is a crowning jewel in your king’s crown. (Every man wants to date a Miss America.) I have heard this over and over again that only certain men can handle a successful woman. And for a little while I almost fell into that trap. What I found is that men don’t mind your success as long as he is getting what he needs. If his love language is being fed then you can be as successful as you want. Look at Joyce Meyer, she never gets on stage without honoring her husband, Dave. You would think that man walked on water. The result? He helps her become a greater success. He gets honor, she gets love. Simple.
4. We are men. Meaning we don’t get everything right and have trouble processing our emotions. Be patient in his frustration and help him process…in love. When have you ever known a guy to get anything right all the time?

As a pageant boyfriend these are some of the things that I have discovered. These 4 guidelines will enable you to experience joy in your relationship as you are pursuing both the crown and love.