Perfect pageant confidence is the confidence that you carry into the interview room, but it’s also the confidence that you carry throughout your life. The key to pageant-winning confidence is that this confidence goes beyond the day, week or month of the pageant and is the confidence that you carry with you in all of your endeavors.
Here are a few ways that you can be the most confident girl in the room when you enter your next pageant.
Ways To Get Winning Pageant Confidence
1. Stand Tall
The first thing that people see when you walk in a room is your stance, so you want to make it count. Not only will your posture influence the way that others see you, it will also influence the way that you feel about yourself.
Think big! Pulling in your limbs signals a shyness or insecurity, while keeping your shoulders up and out and your abs pulled in tight creates a posture that demonstrates confidence.
Think winner! If you’ve ever played a sport, you know what it’s like to have that winning game that puts you on top of the world when you’re done. No matter where you are, walk into a room with that stance. Hold your head up high, smile brightly and throw your shoulders back. You will leave yourself and those around you feeling better and more confident when you leave. (Read: How to Win Over a Pageant Coach Judge in Interview)
2. Smile Often
Equally as important as the stance is the smile. Smiling more will put you and those around you at ease, and it’s a visible reminder that no matter what is going on in your life, you have something to hope for and thus something to smile about.
Smiling when you walk into a room lets others know that you’re confident in yourself, ready to engage with others, and prepared to face whatever this day is going to bring you.
3. Be Kind
Confidence comes from knowing who you are and what you believe, and being kind to others shows that you value those around you. Winning titleholders know that those around them are of great value no matter who they are and treat them as such. Winning confidence is about knowing your worth, and knowing your worth involves recognizing the worth that those around you have as well.
4. Get to Know Yourself
Beyond knowing your inherent value, winning queens demonstrate an understanding of who they are and what they want. When you go into an interview fully knowing your own answers and views it’s easy to answer whatever questions come your way, because you already know the answers.
Take some time to reflect on who you are as a person and who you want to become. Consider your life goals and your goals in pageantry. When you know who you are and what your goals are, you’re a lot less likely to settle for something that’s less than the very best. Knowing who you are will also help you to appreciate those around you more and celebrate in their accomplishments the same way that you would your own.
5. Stand Firm
Anyone who has ever pursued their dreams knows that they are never as simple as you set out expecting them to be. Don’t let that deter you. Confident winners do not let setbacks deter them from their goals or allow others’ opinions to deter them from their full potential.
Perseverance in pageantry is a valuable lesson that applies in every other area of life. The best things in life are challenging. Know that whatever setbacks you may have, they don’t define you. Winning confidence is about knowing who you are, not because of a lack of obstacles but in spite of them. (Read: How to Use Perseverance to Win the Crown)
Winning confidence means treating yourself with respect no matter what circumstances you find yourself in. You may have a lot of effort that needs to go into your pageant but in preparing, but don’t beat yourself up. Life is hard enough, you don’t need that added pressure on yourself.
Put in maximum effort, but continue to treat yourself with respect, and give your body and mind the rest that they need. Winning confidence means knowing how to treat yourself with respect so that you in turn can respect everyone around you.
7. Own Your Imperfections
“Perfect is boring,” said winning pageant coach Valerie Hayes. “If you push yourself to be perfect, you’re going to end up not really being yourself.” She’s right. No one is perfect, not even the most fabulous pageant queens.
Don’t waste your time measuring yourself up to others or stressing out over your perceived flaws. Confidence is about owning them. You don’t have to flaunt what you feel makes you a less qualified competitor, but whatever it is, don’t allow it to change how you feel about yourself.
Confidence comes from the inside out, so building up that inner confidence through knowing who you really are is something that can shine through whatever concerns you may have about your outer appearance.